WHAT IF WE ACTUALLY LEARN TO SAY NO?

Have you ever considered yourself as a person who says yes to anyone and anything and can’t say NO?

Have you got tired of saying yes but still you do it even if you don’t want it. Most of the people frequently say ‘yes’ without even thinking because they are afraid of the outcome. By saying yes it makes people’s life much easier and the fear of rejection reduces.

Someone asks you to do something, and you say yes but in reality, you are fully packed with your schedule you don’t even have time to sleep but still, you said ‘yes’ do you ever wonder why? It’s because you are afraid that if you say no to the person it will break their heart even if the matter is not that complicated.

You beat yourself about it later but it’s too late to back-out because you made a commitment and you are loyal to your commitments.

Today we people are dealing with so many issues in our daily life that we neglect ourselves in it. By saying yes to everything we seek some sort of approval from others to feel good when someone asks us to do something we are obligated to say yes because we want to be in their good grades we don’t want to look bad. The truth is we seek approval of others to define our worth no matter how good of a person we are.

But we shouldn’t let people define us sure their opinion matters in so many ways but still, it’s not the deciding factor. We shouldn’t be dependent on other’s thinking to feel our worth it will make us feel worthless that others have such a strong influence on our lives that we can’t do anything about it and eventually do what they want us to do to be in their good book.

“Learn to say no when you have to. Else you will be forced to say ‘yes’ when you don’t want to.” – Nila

Life does not leave its light on all the time. It eventually travels the distance and falls off the edge of the cliff and calls it a day. The end hence is inevitable.  But how many of us do live life before it has already ended. How many of us do, what we dream to do or desire to do? Willingness, desire, choice, and decision, how many of us are actually familiar with these words?

Why is it important to say NO?

Since childhood, we are taught to follow; follow our siblings, follow our parents or cousins or their children may be. “My father is an engineer that’s why I have to become an engineer!” We must have heard these kinds of statements very often. The power of decision making, the act of denying or dismissing the thought or command, THE ABILITY TO SAY NO, is confiscated from us from the very beginning of our lives. Therefore, we just lead our lives with an element missing, which is considered to be the most important prospect, ‘happiness’.

Ever wondered, how you must have felt if you had said no the first time you were teased or bullied by your classmate. The joy you would have felt on choosing the profession you liked and saying no to the pressure imposed by the society. The milestones you might have achieved if you had blocked and guarded yourself with a “NO” shield when surroundings implored you to marry.

The nooks and crannies of one’s soul demands to be heard. It deserves the chance to chalk it off the experience.  People, with conscious mind and head tends to be rebellious if put behind the bar. The probability of one trying to get hold of other people’s lives is much higher.

They believe that they were oppressed and hence no other human deserves the chance to breathe as well. They must live through the same experiences and hell. This, therefore leads to cascade of events which kills the innocent dreams and desires. The chain of adverse reaction could just be broken by a word which seems to have two words but has an impact that could tear the sky apart i.e. NO